How to Build the Ultimate Kinky Sex Toy Kit

By: Luna Matatas

Kink isn’t one-size-fits-all—it’s a whole playground of sensations, power dynamics, and deliciously creative fantasies. The fun part? You get to decide what kinky means for you. Use your erotic imagination and some choice implements to bring your fantasies to life.

The right kinky tools don’t just make things spicier—they help bring your fantasies into the real world and give the body new ways to respond, melt, quiver, or explode with pleasure. So, let’s build a kinky kit with endless play possibilities!

What is a kinky sex toy kit?

Think of a kinky sex toy kit as your own personal adventure bag of pleasure tools—your BDSM backpack, your desire go-bag, your curiosity kit. It’s not just a drawer full of random toys. It’s a curated collection designed around your body, your erotic fantasies, and the kind of kinky energy you want to explore—whether that’s playful sensory teasing or deep power play.

A kinky sex toy kit helps you:

Build confidence
Explore safely
Turn fantasies into real-life sensations
Stay organized even if your sex life (or life) is beautifully chaotic

Your Kinky Kit can include tools for:

Bondage and Restraining
Impact Play
Sensation Play
Role Play

Good Vibes has tons of sex toy kits, bondage kits, anal training kits, and kinky sex toys for couples—so whether you're starting from scratch or leveling up, you’ll find a variety of kit options. Want to curate a custom kinky kit? Maybe you have a vivid aesthetic of your fantasy or kinky tools embody a specific energy for you. Building a custom kinky kit can be a fun way to surprise or collaborate with your partner.

Building a Kinky Kit That Matches Your Needs

Your kit should match your life—not the other way around. Nipple clamps and silicone paddles are hot, but they aren’t for everyone. Do you need the biggest baddest paddle or are you hoping to give precise impact with tools like a riding crop? If you’re new to butt stuff, don’t let your eyes be bigger than your beginner butthole—start with small plugs and gradually increase size (don’t forget the lube!).

Think about how and where you’re likely to use the tool, whether you’ll use it solo or partnered, how you’ll store it, and your experience level.

Your Experience Level

Beginners: Start with gentle tools—soft cuffs, blindfolds, a feather tickler, or light sensation toys.
Try: Sexy Submission Kit – great for dipping a toe—or a thigh—into playful kink.
Seasoned kink explorers: You might be ready for more intensity—adjustable nipple clamps, a silicone paddle, or a more advanced bondage set.
Need inspo to keep things interesting? Use Kinky Truth or Dare Pick-a-Stick to get new ideas.

Your Dynamic

Solo explorers wanting to learn their bodies
Couples looking to introduce power play
Long-distance partners craving connection through couples long-distance sex toys (app-controlled vibes are your best friend!)

Your Desires

Ask yourself:

“Do I want to feel held, teased, controlled, adored, shocked, surprised?”
“Do I want sensation intensity… or emotional intensity?”
“Do I want to explore anal? Nipple play? Roleplay? Dominance? Submission?”

Use these answers to approach how you think about the tools you want to include in your kit. You can build a kit by theme according to activity, mood, role, or connection. Get tips for sexy roleplay here.

Kinky Sex Toy Kits for Couples

Ready to curate your kit? Here are some ideas and inspo to get you on the right track.

Kinky Activity Kits

These kits are built around what you’re actually doing. Perfect if you know the sensation or kink that excites you.

Impact Play Kit

Floggers and leather paddles (paddles are great for beginner and advanced kinsters)
Blindfolds – heighten anticipation
Aftercare lotion to soothe skin afterward. Try a massage oil.

How to use: Warm up the body, start with gentle strokes or taps, and gradually build intensity. Swap roles to explore giving and receiving impact. Want to explore kink without a partner? Check out how to explore kink solo here.

Restraint & Control Kit

How to use: Restrain one partner safely and tease with sensations - body kisses, touches, vibrators, nipple clamps. Take turns planning a restraints scene for each other. Bondage Tape can be used for wrist and ankle restraints, blindfolding and covering the mouth (and it doesn't stick to hair or skin).

Sensation Play Kit

Feather tickler or soft brush
Wartenberg pinwheel
Temperature-safe metal toy like the Fun Wand (put in freezer or in warm liquid)
Soft rope or bondage tape
Cozy blanket

How to use: Alternate hot/cold and soft/hard sensations to awaken every nerve ending, keeping your partner guessing and fully engaged. Restrain them for a heightened experience. Explore temperature play how-to on the blog here.

Make a Mood Kits

Your mood sets the scene. Here are four ways to play with mood:

Make a Mood Kits

Surrender Kit

Focus on giving up control safely:

Blackout Blindfold
Wrist and ankle restraints
Soft gag or silk tie
Remote vibrator - try an internal one like We-Vibe Jive
Mat, pillows, blanket
Safety scissors
Use sexy dice to set the direction of the evening

How to use: Let go of control and surrender fully to sensations. Your partner guides the experience while you focus on feeling. For more vulva-focused worship sensations, try a clitoral pump.

Worship Kit

Give or receive worship, body adoration or pamper with these sensation tools:

Feather ticklers
Body-safe massage oils - try fragranced oils or fragrance-free oils
Soft restraints
Remote vibrator or small wand vibrator
Sensual lingerie

How to use: Focus on touch, eye contact, and slow teasing to create an atmosphere of worship and adoration.

Discipline Kit

Explore control and correction:

Silicone paddle for impact on big body areas or riding crop for more precision impact on smaller areas
Adjustable cuffs
Collar or leash - Try this collar with nipple clamps attached
Ticklers or pinwheel
Blindfold & aftercare lotion

How to use: Combine light discipline with positive reinforcement. Build a rhythm and communicate throughout for maximum erotic tension. For more intense sensation - try a zapping wand.

Sensory Deprivation Kit

Heighten pleasure by taking away senses:

Full blindfold/mask/hood
Wrist and ankle cuffs (Check out this under-the-bed restraints system)
Remote vibrators - hands-free vibes like remote penis rings and panty vibes
Ticklers

How to use: Deprive one sense at a time while stimulating others. Alternate gentle and intense touches for mind-blowing anticipation. Use restraints or blindfolds to help the body focus on the sensation.

Role Play Kits

Step into a fantasy or persona and use kinky tools to make your role feel real. Inspire a character to come out to play with Bedroom costumes (plus sizes available!)

Authority/Instructor Kit

Riding crop
Collar or restraint
Cane - an intermediate to advanced tool

How to use: Give instructions, assign tasks, and reward compliance for erotic tension and play. Try sexting with each other to build up the character and choose language that can bring dirty talk into your role play.

Pet/Trainer Kit

Collar & leash
Treats or rewards like Oral Sex Candy or Candy Cock Rings
Small toy - try a mini vibrator

How to use: Alternate commands, punishments and rewards. Encourage playful submission while maintaining a safe environment.

Butt Stuff Kit

Explore anal play safely and pleasurably:

Anal training kit - the Naughty Trainer Set has 3 plugs of different sizes to train with.
Butt Plug or prostate toy
Long-lasting silicone-based lubricant, like Pjur.
Anal beads
Anal douche
Wipes or towel
Or get your beginner butt a kit that has it all with the Up The Chimney Bundle.

How to use: Get the body aroused, and do any hygiene prep you’re comfortable with. Put down a towel. Start slow with small toys, use plenty of lube, and gradually work up in size or intensity. Mix in teasing for maximum pleasure. New to anal sex? Get beginner tips here. And maximize your prostate pleasure with these tips here.

Sensual Kits

For slow, teasing, indulgent erotic play:

Feather ticklers & soft brushes
Massage oils
Edible Body Candle
Blindfold
Warming/cooling lubes and gels
Remote vibrator - like the WeVibe Moxie which attaches to underwear on any body
Sensual lingerie

How to use: Alternate teasing, gentle touch, and slow buildup to maximize arousal. Show off or voyeur. Dim the lighting and put on a sexy playlist. Great for solo play too - indulge in every sensation with curiosity and patience.

Why Proper Toys Matter & Tips for Safe Exploration

Using tools designed for sex is not just safer—it’s smarter. DIY methods like ropes from hardware stores, kitchen utensils, or household objects can injure you, restrict circulation, or damage delicate tissue. Where to buy a sex toy kit? While you can find kinky sex toys in many retailers, investing in body-safe, high-quality toys from trusted retailers like Good Vibes protects your body and your erotic experience.

Getting to Know a New Toy:

Clean it first: Always sanitize before use, even if it’s new.
Touch & test: Explore the texture, flexibility, and vibration levels solo before partnered play.
Start slow: Introduce intensity gradually, whether it’s impact, insertion, or teasing.
Communicate: If you’re with a partner, discuss preferences, boundaries, and safe words.
Storage: Keep toys in a clean, dry space—bonus if it’s discreet and organized.

Using proper sex toys, respecting your limits, and taking the time to learn your tools makes kinky exploration more thrilling, more satisfying, and far safer.

Suggested Starter Bundles from Good Vibes Collection

Not sure where to start? Good Vibes makes it easy with pre-curated adult toy sets and bundles that cover different kinks, moods, and experience levels. Here are some of my top picks:

Sexy Submission Kit for Sensual Play

Perfect for beginners exploring sensation play and light teasing. Includes a feather tickler, soft restraints, and a blindfold.
Check it out here

Earthly Body Holiday/Valentine’s Play & Pleasure Gift Set

Combines sensual massage items, body-safe toys, and sexy lingerie—perfect for a romantic or mood-focused kit.
Explore this set.

Bondage Starter Kits

Beginner-friendly sets with cuffs, blindfolds, and beginner BDSM toys for couples or solo explorers ready to try bondage safely.
Browse options.

Remote Vibrator Collection

Perfect for long-distance couples or teasing from across the room. Choose a remote-controlled toy for shared pleasure no matter the distance.
See remote vibes

Tip: You can mix and match these bundles with single toys from Good Vibes to create a completely personalized kit that grows with your desires, experience, and kinky curiosity.

Luna Matatas

Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops internationally. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. Luna is a creator and facilitator of over 35 Sexy Skills on-demand webinars that help people navigate the adult sex education skills we all need. She teaches a range of pleasure-based topics from how to have threesomes, developing erotic dominance and submission skills to seducing the butt and more. Coming from a background in public health, Luna prioritizes relatable, inclusive and accurate information to create and continue conversations. She has worked in Eastern and Southern Africa, Canada, US and through virtual education in over 20 countries. Luna's sex expertise has been featured in media like Women's Health, Men's Health, Cosmo, Refinery 29, Vice, Playboy, and Shape. She has been featured on countless podcasts helping to normalize conversations around shame, pleasure and relationships. She created Peg the Patriarchy® as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise.