Men's Health & Pleasure

Andropause is the name for a collection of symptoms related to a gradual decline in testosterone levels with age. Signs can include mental and physical fatigue, sleep issues, decreased libido, and changes in sexual function like erectile dysfunction or infertility. Andropause is sometimes referred to as "male menopause," testosterone deficiency, androgen deficiency, and late-onset hypogonadism.

If you are experiencing symptoms of andropause, it's best to discuss this with your doctor and get your testosterone levels checked. Often, these symptoms can be treated by lifestyle changes like exercise and nutrition, though sometimes hormone-related treatments may be suggested for certain cases.

Erectile dysfunction (ED) or erectile issues can occur due to a variety of or combination of physical and psychological factors. Physical factors can include heart or vascular issues that can impact blood flow to the genitals, low testosterone levels, taking certain medications or medical treatments. Psychological factors can include stress, anxiety (including performance anxiety), and depression. Certain lifestyle choices can effect erectile function as well, with smoking, excessive alcohol or drug use, poor sleep, and lack of physical activity can cause issues.

To find the root of your ED and navigate any underlying issues, speak with your doctor. If your doctor doesn't have training or isn't comfortable with this discussion, see a specialist. 

While touching your own prostate can be great for pleasure and prostate stimulation can help with overall prostate health (use lube when you do!), it's not enough to ensure you are doing everything you can to keep healthy. Get regular screenings, rectal exams (DREs) and blood tests (PSA Tests) - especially if you have a family history of prostate-related illnesses or cancer, or if you have been experiencing warning signs like difficulty urinating, blood in the urine, pelvic pain, or prostate area inflammation.

This term refers to sexual desire and motivation—a person's erections may or not be affected, but the real issue is whether one is inclined to have sex. 

Libido can be affected by health, stress, and hormonal issues. It's sometimes a marker of stress or difficulties in a relationship specifically, and even self-image issues, including those that can be related to sexual orientation or gender identity. And some people are on the asexual spectrum and don't feel desire for other people in the first place—or limited desire if they do. Talk to a doctor or sex therapist if libido issues are troubling you or have come up unexpectedly, and share your concerns with your partner.

Not true! Though insertive sex can be extremely pleasurable  (and is non-negotiable, for some people), it is not the only way to bring sexual pleasure to a partner. A focus on erections and intercourse can even mask the fact that a partner cannot orgasm by having sex this way. 

Add—or substitute—manual and oral play, fun with toys, exploring roleplay and/or kink, and remembering that erotic sensations are possible all over the body!