Sex and masturbation should feel joyful and fun rather than like "a workout." Sometimes, plus-size folks can hesitate to explore intimacy because they worry about their own flexibility or whether their partner will be uncomfortable. The truth is that pleasure has no size limit.

Loving Your Curves: Why the Right Toys and Tools Matter 

When it comes down to it, choosing ergonomically designed sex toys, hands-free sex toys, sex pillows, and inclusively sized harnesses isn't just about logistics. It's about feeling confident, supported, and sexy in your own body. 

Plus-size bodies can have different mobility needs, which means that longer handles, remote controls, and mountable toys can all help reduce strain on wrists or thighs while still offering more comfortable angles of penetration and pleasure. Using supportive furniture such as sex pillows or wedges also alleviates pressure on joints and the belly. Inclusive harnesses with adjustable straps and padded back panels cushion the body and let curvy folks take charge during pegging or partnered penetration play.

Investing in the right tools means you can enjoy deep penetration, clitoral stimulation, and hands-free orgasms without worrying about being uncomfortable.

The Best Plus-Size Sex Toys and Harnesses for Solo and Partnered Play 

Hands-Free Toys and Suction Dildos 

Hands-free sex toys let you focus on pleasure rather than holding a toy in place. Wearable vibes like the Honey Play Box Melody and The Companion Wearable Vibe offer customizable vibration patterns, long battery life, and app-based or physical remote control so you or a partner can adjust intensity without interrupting the fun. Suction dildos stay put when suctioned to a smooth surface or placed in a sex toy mount, giving you steady penetration without using your hands. 

Sex Machines 

If you like the idea of riding something without having to do the work yourself, a ride-on sex machine might be your new favourite toy. The Cowgirl is a luxury ride-on sex machine with a vegan-leather saddle and interchangeable silicone attachments that deliver both vibration and rotation. You can control the machine via a hand-held remote or the Cowgirl Bluetooth app to fire up the powerful 1,200 rpm vibrations. The app even lets lovers or admirers take the reins from anywhere with a WiFi connection. Because the Cowgirl is built on a padded, saddle-style seat with silicone bumpers to protect surfaces, you can straddle it comfortably and let the machine handle the motion while your hands are free for stroking or stimulating other erogenous zones. Not ready to invest? Or just want something not as powerful, or easier to store? The Thrust 'N' Grind Thrusting and Vibrating Silicone Grinder is a compact version that can get you started and see if you want to invest in The Cowgirl.

Lay-On Vibrators and Wands 

Classic wand vibrators like the Magic Wand remain popular because they deliver strong, rumbly vibrations over a large surface area. Their extra-long length and wide head make it ideal for plus-size users because you can reach across a belly or thighs without straining. Some wands like the Palm Power Extreme and Lelo Smart Wand 2 come with flexible necks and ergonomic, rounded handles to help you explore different angles and even wrap around even the roundest of bellies.

Lay-on vibrators with contoured shapes provide broad stimulation for people who like pressure but don't want to insert a toy. The Wellness Palm Sense, Je Joue Mimi Soft, and Dame Pom are great options to grind against. When using a non-hands-free toy, you can also place it between your thighs to create pressure against the clit or vulva while grinding. Now is when thick thighs are really helpful!

Suction Toys With Long Handles 

Air pulse or suction toys deliver gentle, rhythmic pressure to the clit. The Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 2 is a popular choice; it uses air pressure waves delivered through a soft silicone cap, offers multiple intensity levels, and is whisper-quiet and waterproof for bathtime play. Because the handle is longer than many clitoral stimulators, you can comfortably position it between your belly or thighs without contorting your wrist. Suction toys with long handles also allow a partner to stimulate you during missionary or doggy style positions.

Long-Handled G-Spot Vibrators 

Internal vibes with extended handles and curved shafts are excellent for plus-size folks or anyone with limited mobility. The Pleasure Curve Vibrator has an easy reach, curved handle with a loop that provides just the right angles without straining your hand or wrist. The long handle lets you rock, rotate, or slide the toy in and out without needing extreme flexibility. Having a longer reach is particularly beneficial when exploring solo play positions like lying on your side or using a pillow ramp. You can even use a toy like the Together 2.0 Vibrating Double as a solo toy and use the other end as a handle. Even using G-spot toys as external toys and using their insertable lengths as handles can be helpful to reach other external erogenous zones, like with the Spathe Lily Vibe.

Sex Toy Mounts, Pillows, and Furniture 

Sex pillows are firm, angled cushions that elevate your hips or torso to create better angles and deeper penetration. Wedge pillows support the hips during missionary or doggy style and help keep hands and knees free from strain. Ramps support the upper torso for plus-size oral sex or G-spot stimulation, while mountable sex pillows allow you to slide a dildo into a slot for hands-free thrusting. These accessories make many sex positions more accessible and comfortable for all bodies, but especially curvy bodies.

Plus-Size Strap-On Harnesses and Thigh Straps 

Pegging or strap-on play is empowering when you have a harness that fits. The Voluptuous Vixen Plus-Sized Harness is designed for inclusive sizing; durable nylon straps wrap around the waist and butt, a wide padded back band provides cushioning, and the plush front panel holds interchangeable O-rings to fit various dildos. It fits waists from 28 inches up to 82 inches.

You can also think outside of traditional waist harnesses and harness a dildo to a different body part. Get creative and harness your favorite toy to your face with the Pivot In Your Face Strap On or your foot with the Pivot Foot Flex Strap On. The Ultra Thigh Strap-on Harness wraps easily around a thigh, leg, knee, arm or even pillow - fitting up to a circumference of 32”.

For more adventurous positions, the Pivot Positioning Partner cradles your neck and thighs with padded straps and adjustable sides; D-rings allow attachment of cuffs for restraint play, and pulling the legs back helps achieve deeper penetration while supporting the neck.

How to Boost Confidence in the Bedroom: Plus-Size Lingerie and More 

Celebrate Your Curves With Inclusive Lingerie 

Lingerie has become more inclusive, and plus-size folks can now choose from sexy styles like crotchless pieces, sheer babydolls, and supportive bra sets. Wearing lingerie that fits well and aligns with your personal style can be incredibly empowering. It challenges "traditional" beauty standards and promotes self-love. To feel your best, invest in a proper fit: use size charts and get professionally measured for bras. Select lingerie that flatters your personal favorite features, whether that's a plunging neckline to showcase cleavage or high-waisted panties to accentuate your waist. 

Confidence-Boosting Tips Beyond Lingerie 

Confidence comes from within. Talk about what works for you and what doesn't before you get down to business. If certain positions feel awkward, remix them: try stabilizing yourself on a kitchen counter, or lie on your side with one leg on your partner's shoulder for support. Don't be shy about leaving the lights on; hiding can limit your pleasure, and many partners appreciate seeing your body.

Wearing lingerie and watching yourself in a mirror can be erotic. Admire yourself in a lace outfit before play, verbally affirm your sexiness, and embrace the feeling of the fabric. For additional arousal, incorporate sensory play like feathers, blindfolds, or massage candles. 

Plus-Size Sex Positions That Feel Amazing (and Accessories to Make Them Better) 

Missionary With a Twist 

A traditional missionary can work for plus-size couples when you add support. Placing a pillow like a sex wedge under the receiver's hips raises the pelvis, making it easier for the penetrative partner to access the genitals and hit the G-spot. These firm cushions elevate your hips so your belly feels out of the way and your partner can maintain eye contact.

To make missionary even more stimulating, pair it with a wand vibrator like the Magic Wand or a suction toy like the Satisfyer Pro 2. Hold the toy against the clit while your partner thrusts. For plus-size solo play, insert an internal vibrator like the We-Vibe Rave and rock your hips against a pillow for pressure.

Doggy Style and Rear-Entry Variations 

Doggy style, where the receiving partner kneels on hands and knees and the giving partner enters from behind, allows deep penetration without putting weight on a partner. To reduce strain on wrists or knees, stack pillows under the chest or use a ramp and/or wedge to support the torso. A doggy-style strap can also help pull legs back for deeper access. Pair this position with a sex mount to hold a dildo and back onto it hands-free.

Cowgirl and How to Be on Top Tips

Riding your partner (cowgirl or reverse cowgirl) gives the person with a vulva control over depth and pace. Sit facing your partner or turn around for reverse cowgirl; lean forward so your partner supports part of your weight, or place a pillow under their hips for extra height. If being on top is challenging, start on the edge of the bed or a sturdy chair and let your partner support your thighs while you squat or straddle. This variation provides stability and less bending. Slide the Doggie Style strap under your partner to give yourself extra stability while riding, and don't be afraid to lean on your headboard, or whatever else is nearby for support. 

Side-By-Side and Spooning

Side-lying positions (spooning) are intimate and reduce strain on joints. Lay on your sides facing the same direction; the penetrative partner enters from behind while both partners remain supported by the bed. This is ideal for plus-size couples because there's no need to support body weight. Amplify the experience by squeezing a lay-on vibrator like the We-Vibe Touch X between your thighs while your partner penetrates from behind. For solo play, lie on your side with a long-handled vibrator like the Ruby and use the curved handle to reach your clit easily.

Exploring More Positions and Self-Love 

Plus-size sex is all about creativity. Remember that there is no "one-size-fits-all" way to enjoy sex; communicate with your partner about your limits and explore positions that provide comfort and pleasure. Try new sensations, new aids, and just have fun!

Now Go Try For Yourself! 

Plus-size sex should celebrate curves, not hide them. Investing in body-safe sex toys for curvy bodies, from hands-free vibrators and suction toys to wand vibrators for plus-size users and inclusive harnesses, makes solo and partnered play more accessible and fun. Using sex pillows, ramps, and thigh straps reduces strain and allows deeper penetration and varied positions. 

Confidence is key: wear plus-size lingerie that makes you feel sexy, keep the lights on, use mirrors for visual arousal, and be open with your partner about what feels good. Whether you're riding your partner in cowgirl, spooning with a lay-on vibe or exploring new positions with a sex pillow mount, remember that the best plus-size sex positions for comfort and pleasure are the ones that honor your body's needs and desires.

Celebrate those curves; you deserve pleasure!

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Carly S. (she/her/they/them), also known as the Queen of Wands, is an influential pleasure educator, esteemed porn star, versatile model, and the creative mind behind the blog "Dildo or Dildont." Hailing from the vibrant borough of the Bronx, Carly has become a formidable force in many facets of the adult industry, boasting nominations for Xbiz Sexpert of the Year in both 2023 and 2024. Find her at @makeupandsin