The Hottest Sex Swing Positions (And Toys To Boost Them)
Sex swings are one of the best accessories that take your familiar moves and make them novel and stimulating ? here?s what you need to know about them.
What Is a Sex Swing (And How Does It Work)?
Sex swings and sex slings are specially designed pieces of sex furniture that suspend one participant in the air, allowing for unique sex positions. Many swings look like the love-child between a rock climbing harness, a seated hammock, a pilates reformer machine, and equestrian gear. This intentional design helps you explore new sex positions, elevating your partnered experiences.
So, how does a sex swing work? A swing typically sits around the back or hips of one partner during play. Most sex swings and slings come with stirrups or straps and handles to support the legs and arms, with different configurations depending on what position you?re trying to achieve. They help support you exactly where you need it during sex.
Are sex swings hard to use?
No, you won?t kickstart a career at Cirque du Soleil - instead, these swings reduce physical strain and help you better reach erogenous zones. The ?swing? motion adds bounce without extra effort.
Sex swings can actually make penetration easier, both vaginal and anal (including pegging), due to their adjustability. Sex swings are also used for face sitting, eating out, eating ass, blowjobs, and every other euphemism for oral sex.
Sex swings can help people with mobility issues and knee pain, and make it easier to incorporate mobility devices. Sex swings can help you if you have a large height difference between you and your partner. They can also help you with your BDSM scenes, since you?re not trapped against a flat bed or bench.
Different Types of Sex Swings
There are different varieties of sex swings. Some are mounted from one point, like on the ceiling, or from a sex swing stand. There are door jamb sex swings, which typically come with two straps and use the door frame as the mounting point, and are quite easy to install.
Over-the-Door Sex Swings
Over-the-door sex swings, or door jam sex slings, use the door frame or door jamb as the load-bearing support for the swing. We all know that size doesn?t matter; it?s what you do with it, and that?s true of your home, too!
Door jamb sex swings are the best choice if you?re living in a smaller apartment, because all you need is one strong closing door. These are easy to install in any door frame, meaning you can use them in the bedroom, the bathroom, or any other room with a closing door. Removal is as easy as opening the door, making them the best style of swing to hide from visitors or roommates.
There are many different styles of door frame sex swings, depending on your comfort. Most, like the Behind Closed Doors Adjustable Door Hanging Sex Swing, come with leg straps and smaller handles. If you want more support or the ability to fully sit in the swing, models like the Pivot Deluxe Door Jam Sex Sling come with a wider seat. Regardless of features, setting the swing up by the door allows you to be a pillow princess, or use the wall to push against for a more active contribution to door sex swing positions.
Standing/Support Swings
Standing or support swings are mounted from one point, requiring additional equipment for setup. These swings, like the Trinity Sex Swing, are beginner-friendly, allowing for versatility of movement and positions.
Free-standing swings can be lowered to hover above the ground, making positions like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl and face sitting easier - your feet are fully on the ground, with your hips supported, creating less pressure for your knees.
Sex Slings and Frames
Many sex slings are advertised using language like ?sex swing with stand? or ?sex swing frame?. These are structures that make it easy to move to any place you want to play.
You often see them with BDSM sex swings, which typically have a larger leather or nylon bed with chains to attach the swing to the stand. Whether using the sling style or bed style of swing, both allow for easier BDSM play than other styles, with places for additional restraints like cuffs, rope, and spreader bars.
Plus Size Sex Swings and Accessibility
Every sex swing is adjustable for height, but not all sex swings are adjustable around the thigh straps. When shopping for a sex swing, make sure you look at the weight limit, and which parts of the swing are adjustable, like the thigh or foot straps. Some swings have more padding around the thigh straps or more padding around the hip sling. This is why some people prefer a sex swing with a flat bed like in the BDSM sex swing style, rather than the sling-based strap system.
How to Set Up a Sex Swing
Different sex swings require different tools. Make sure you read the manufacturer?s sex swing instructions, including weight limits and recommendations before setting up your swing. Always test the swing for load bearing before you get too hot and heavy - nothing ruins the mood quite like a bruised tailbone.
Mounting your Door Frame Sex Swings
- For most, no hardware is necessary outside of what comes with these toys, which makes them a great option for renters.
- Look for the plastic straight bars attached to the straps. Place those between the door frame and the door, and shut the door to secure it in place.
- Alternative: Attach a pull-up bar to the door frame, and use carabiners to attach the sex sling to the pull-up bar, increasing the distance from the door to the swing.
- Alternative: Attach the sex swing to a beam with beam straps.
How to Hang a Sex Swing
- Supplies depend on whether you?re mounting the sex swing to the ceiling or a frame. They can include closed eye screws, a stud finder, hook eye plates, long screws, a screwdriver or a drill.
- When using a swing that comes with the frame, all instructions and supplies should already be included.
- If mounting to the ceiling, locate a hard point (the structural part of your house that is designed to be load-bearing). Make sure you drill deep so you are not supported by the ceiling material alone.
How to Use a Sex Swing
Swings and slings may look like an intimidating collection of straps, but they?re quite simple to use. There?s no wrong way, as long as you?re comfortable and safely secured.
How to sit in a sex swing
Start by positioning your hips. Some sex slings have one strap for the mid-back and one for the thighs. Some swings have one sling that sits around the lower back. These slings can also be placed on the stomach or around your hip joints if facing ?downward?.
You can use only the hip straps, leaving your legs on the ground, or place your thighs or feet in the stirrups. Using the leg straps depends on your position and flexibility.
When getting started, practice by getting into the swing with it lowered close to the ground. Step out of the sling, then readjust the swing to the correct height. Remember to use your arms and hands for support and balance. Your partner should act as a spotter.
As you start to experiment with different sex positions, start slowly and communicate how things feel. Remember to think about more than sexual pleasure: how do the thigh straps feel, are you straining your neck? For the partner not in the swing, it?s okay to say if a position doesn?t feel good, or to adjust the swing in some way for your comfort as well.
The swing moves differently than you may be familiar with. Begin slowly so any unexpected bouncing or swaying doesn?t result in an unfortunate accident.
Best Sex Swing Positions (And Toys To Use With Them)
When trying out your sex swing, it?s okay to laugh, be silly, and have fun. You can do any position you normally like, but with a sex swing, you get to have fun with the ?flying? version of each of them. This is when you?re fully suspended in the air by the sex swing (look mom, no hands!) with the free partner standing or sitting.
Remember, sex doesn?t mean penetration. Sex is all the things we do that lead to pleasure, play, and orgasms, so don?t feel like you have to use the swing for penis-in-hole penetration or dildo-in-hole penetration. Experimenting with your sex swing includes finding more comfortable positions for fingering, oral sex, dry humping, sensory play, role play, and power dynamics.
Here?s some ways to get creative:
Flying Missionary + Variations
Missionary is an underrated position, and sex swings make it easier to do this one standing up. The person in the sling can wrap their legs around the standing partner, place their feet on their shoulders, or wrap them around their neck for deeper penetration. Or, lie back and let them do all the work.
Experiment with using just the thigh straps for support, allowing your partner to suspend you with a hug.
This is a great place to use partnered vibrating toys, whether we?re talking penis-in-vagina, penis-in-anus, or pegging. The We-Vibe sync lite, which is a hands-free way of stimulating the clitoris, whether you?re being penetrated or you?re penetrating your partner. For hands-free fun for a penis, try the We-Vibe Verge Vibrating Ring, which stimulates the perineum, or can be shifted to pleasure your partner instead. We-Vibe also has an app that lets you sync your toys together.
Flying Doggy Style + Variations
Doggy style is a tried and true classic. With a sex swing, doggy style can be done with both partners' feet firmly on the floor, using the hand straps for balance when bending over. Or, put your feet in the straps for flying doggy. Place your hands on the floor for ?wheelbarrow?, or both hands and feet for a supported downward dog.
Hop on Top: Flying Cowgirl and Variations
Short thigh bones or arthritis making it hard to ride your partner on a bed? Use the sex swing to support you in a squat, so you can use your feet. This position may be called squatting cowgirl, but it works whether you?re using this position for PIV or anal. For this position, your partner lies on their back or in a sitting position, with the swing lowered almost all the way to the floor.
Put your partner in the swing and raise them off the ground in a standing straddle or flying lotus position. Lean forward or back, depending on your comfort.
For a reverse position, put your partner in the swing, place your feet in the thigh straps, and sit on them like a chair. Use the thigh straps or the floor to brace yourself.
Non penetrative sex positions
Sex swings make it easy to spread eagle in comfort. One way to use a door sex swing is to spread your partner's legs open, giving you full access to use your tongue and fingers.
The Flying 69 is when one partner lies back in the swing, and the other partner bends over them. All feet can be on the ground, or one or both partners can lift their feet if you feel secure enough. This position is easy to alternate with flying oral, which is when the partner in the swing is performing oral sex on the standing or seated partner.
Face Sitting: Similar to riding your partner on top, lower the sex swing and use it for support when grinding on your partner's face.
Alternatively, one partner lies back in the sex swing while the other partner sits on a chair to bury their face or fingers in you.
Whether your partner loves suction toys, bullet vibes, or plugs, use the toys that your partner prefers to help them get to their big finish. Nipple clamps, labia spreaders, and restraint systems can be combined with any sex swing or sling for sensory and BDSM play. The special edition Door Jam Sex Sling has a dildo and bullet anchor pads to make incorporating your sex toys into your play easy.
Orgies and Group Play
Sex swings are great not only for partnered sex, but for orgies and group play too! Any of these positions in a sex swing can be done with one partner or more. Use the swing for support during a flying spit roast or flying Eiffel Tower (threesome positions where one partner is being penetrated vaginally/anally by a partner while performing oral on another partner) for any added physical support.
Sex Swing Safety Tips You Should Know About
- A few safety precautions when using your sex swing that you should keep in mind before you get started:
Always read the sex swing weight limit before use. Remember to calculate combined weight limits if trying any positions where both partners are in the swing, like lotus, or flying cowgirl. - Test your setup for load bearing before you use it.
- Try different positions to see what?s comfortable. Think about neck strain or chafing from the straps, and adjust accordingly.
- When engaging with BDSM play, always have a conversation about consent and safe words in advance of your play. If your partner is going to be restrained, make sure there?s a way for them to revoke consent and be quickly released. Read more about bondage for beginners here.
