She Comes First: The...Guide To Pleasuring A Woman
With helpful euphemisms about car mechanics and playful intellectual references to Aristotle, this guide to cunnilingus for men gives advice and suggestions for "keeping your head" while giving a woman head. In this beginner's manual, illustrations show the female pleasure system while Kerner instructs men to slow down and concentrate on understanding how to perform cunnilingus with a variety of positions and clitoral stimulation techniques. Heterosexual focus.
Brand: Good Vibrations Toys
Author: Ian Kemer, PhD
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This book should be a must read for anyone who will ever go down on a woman. It should also be read by anyone with a vagina as it will help you to understand what is going on (and maybe teach your partner a thing or two if they don't want to read it). This book is amazing and changed my relationship (after 7 years) for the better.
I'm female--I bought this book as a gift for a guy friend, and read it myself before gifting it to make sure that I agreed with it. It is fantastic! Like many other women who've grown up feeling body self-conscious and caretaker-ish, I sometimes have a hard time reaching orgasm from cunnilingus--even though it feels much more intense than regular sex--because it's too much focus on just ME. I can get too self-conscious, distracted by thoughts like "Is he enjoying this?" "Do I smell/taste okay?" and "I'm taking too long to orgasm--surely he's getting tired and bored..." The second I start thinking like that--POOF!--I'm back to square one with arousal.
Dr. Kerner understands all of these mental booby traps; his book explains them well and clearly instructs men how to overcome them. I am not a cunnilingus instruction book expert, and there are lots of such books out there, but I was very pleased that this guide specifically addressed the mental blocks that most men don't understand (and can be easily frustrated by). It's well written, and the step-by-step instructions are clear (turned me on just reading through them!). Also there are helpful illustrations.
Note: To make a woman orgasm this way, you don't have to follow every step exactly--it's not a mathematical equation! The build-up, finger penetration, and your own loving attitude, however, are vital elements. Also, you don't have to be in love with your partner to be a "pussy master," but you do need to love, wholeheartedly, her pussy. :)